Coming Out Stories

Coming Out Stories

Emma Komar, Managing Editor

Writer’s Note: Valentine’s Day is often dismissive of LGBTQIA+ relationships, especially  in the media, so we decided to do an article that celebrates all types of love with a coming out stories compilation. Some of these students chose to remain anonymous, while others were made anonymous due to the Voice requirement that students be out to their parents in order to be named, purely for safety reasons. Coming out and announcing yourself to the world is scary, but having the bravery to accept who you are is something to be so proud of. Valentine’s Day is for love–no exclusions apply.


Coming out was always a scary thought for me because you never know how people are going to react. Especially being bisexual no one really believes you because people think it’s one way or the other. However, when I came out to my sister her reaction wasn’t quite what I expected. I told her I was bisexual and I had a crush on a girl and instead of freaking out she said ’I KNEW IT!!!’ I was quite shocked but I was happy I found someone that I could be honest to and will always be there for me.  -Anonymous Freshman


One evening when I had just started dating my first girlfriend, I was sitting on the couch with my mom watching TV and it kind of came to me, very spur of the moment, that I wanted to tell her. I knew she wouldn’t react badly, because my parents are pretty liberal. So I just said, “Mom, I have to tell you something…” and at that point, without really knowing why I was starting to cry, and after being silent for what felt like forever, I just said it. It was very emotional, but I have no regrets about it. -Anonymous Junior


Honestly it’s so easy to just like accidentally come out for a joke. Last summer I was at a coffee shop I think? I was with a group of friends and I wasn’t out to any of them at the time, and I thought they were all straight anyway. We were sitting at a table and there were some art prints hanging on the wall and one of them was hung a little bit askew. One of my friends pointed it out and said something like “That’s not straight.” And completely in unison, a friend and I both said, “Neither am I.” This was followed by a few really confusing minutes of, “Wait, you too?” It turned out that not a single person in that group was straight. Just like magic. -Anonymous Junior


When I was a freshman, I definitely knew I was not straight at the time. I found girls more attractive than guys and I am practically in a school full of girls. I was in theater production class where I met a person named Lucy. She was really open about her sexuality and confident how she is. I wanted be like that so I screamed out in the theater like she did that I am bi(sexual) and she replied back screaming at me, “ME TOO.” From then on I started getting really comfortable and accepting of who I am. I no longer identify as bisexual but now pansexual. There were times where I am so prideful that I even tell a person that I’m gay after I introduce my name. There were times in my past years as a kid where I identify myself as not straight but I never really heard of the standards of being straight and so I was categorized by my friends as strange and different. I started to deny myself but eventually life does what it does, I can’t really stop how I am. -Anonymous Junior


Coming out is a tough story, because my family doesn’t exactly believe in it. I was always in a community where LGBT was never discussed, but freshman year coming here, I found a group of supportive friends who I told about my being Pansexual, and it was easy, because I know I cannot tell everyone or always show my support, but it is still relieving to know who I am and I am proud of that and be able to have friends who will have my back. -Anonymous Sophomore


I don’t think I’m really out. Or if I am, I didn’t get a chance to tell my peers myself. When I first decided to tell a small group of friends that I might be bisexual, they all had positive reactions, which took a huge weight off my shoulders. One day, I accidentally let it slip to a classmate that I found her attractive. I figured she’d tell her close friends about this, but she told one friend who ended up telling anyone who would listen. Since then, my peers definitely treat me differently, and not in a good way; something I found surprising for this supposed “progressive” school. Although I’m not out to my family, who are all rather conservative, I know they suspect and I know that they would have a far more positive reaction than my peers did. -Anonymous Junior


So, I was in my room with my girlfriend cuddling, nothing bad, and my mom walked in without knocking and saw us and then said “What’s going on in here”. I jumped up and said nothing and she said “it doesn’t look like nothing… __(name of girlfriend)__ I think it’s time for you to go home” and then she left and I was stuck in my room not knowing what to do and processing what had just happened. After she had talked to me about the incident and it ended up being semi okay. I came out to my friends by posting a picture on my second account on Instagram saying “lol guys I’m bi” and then disappeared for a week lol. -Anonymous Senior


After freshman year, I was at a summer camp where I knew nobody. I met this one girl who was really nice and she kept talking about this “guy” she liked but she wouldn’t tell me “his” name. Finally she told me that it in fact was a girl and that she was gay, so this encouraged me to respond and tell her that I was too. We kissed and are still good friends. -Anonymous Sophomore


I came out as bisexual on Instagram to a close group of friends. I came out via a series of puns, because I did not want to make coming out as a big or scary thing. The reception was super positive and I’m glad that I told my friends about it because they are super supporting and do not treat me any differently. -Anonymous Junior


During my final year of elementary school, I had had a weird time with crushes (boys.) That summer I was ecstatic to go to a two day all girls sleepover camp. I was super excited not to worry about boys or anything during those few days, however I met one girl who made me realize that I would still be focusing on crushes, and the crush was her. At the time I came out as bi, but later began identifying as pan and I wouldn’t give up being in this wonderful community for the world. -Anonymous Freshman


My friend actually came out to me first, by email. We were both in seventh grade, and my family was out for dinner when I got the message. I had guessed she was bisexual for a while, but I wasn’t expecting her to tell me she had a crush on me.
She had a crush… on me? It was pretty hard not to combust in the middle of a crowded restaurant. Imagine screaming internally while screaming eternally while holding at your fingertips a secret meant only for you.
I waited longer than necessary to send my reply, however.
…However, it turns out I liked her back, and I’m not exactly the pickiest person around when it comes to the gender of my partners. You can bet she yelled at our small friend group about this for the rest of the weekend, and luckily they were really accepting about it. Happiness abounded.
Things changed when I had to move away, though. We had to deal with not seeing each other at school every day, and could only resort to social media for communication. It was hard, especially when I forgot to use social media for long periods of time, but it turns out absence really does make the heart grow fonder. We’re still going steady today.
Here’s to well over two years of being happy with her, and to our wonderfully supportive friends! <3 -Anonymous Freshman


Last year, after questioning for a while, I began to fully identify with being bi. I told people I was bi, as it was easier than having to explain what ‘asexual’ is. That was how I described myself until a few months ago. My friends know I’m queer, and I’m sure many of my straight acquaintances think I’m gay or bi. But now, with who I do and don’t talk to about these things varying so much, I keep having to explain that no, i’m not into guys OR girls. Aromantic? Asexual? A-bout to be very annoyed with the heteronormativity surrounding Valentine’s Day. -Anonymous Sophomore


I’d say about a dozen of my close friends know I’m bi. The funny thing is that about four of the times I came out to my friends, they came out to me too. It’s a party in the closet. -Anonymous Senior


I’ve been coming out to more and more people after figuring out early freshman year I was aromantic/asexual! It’s been a bit worrying for me, seeing as there are so many aphobes within the LGBTQ community that it makes it hard for me to gauge whether coming out is a good or safe idea. However, so far I’ve found nothing but love and support from my friends, who’ve encouraged me to take pride in my identity by attending GSC and just helping me deal with my inevitable crises! It’s safe to say I would never have been this comfortable with who I am today without them. -Anonymous Sophomore


I’ve stopped formally coming out to people. I feel like it just lead to an awkward conversation in my experience. I just make little comments about not being straight until whoever I want to come out to gets the hint. My friends are all very supportive and I personally didn’t want to make a big deal out of the actual act of coming out. Straight people don’t have to come out as straight and they don’t have the pressure to do so. By making the act of coming out to my friends more casual, I feel less pressured on myself to come out.  -Anonymous Junior


When I came out to my best friend in junior high he just turned to me and said “Oh, I already knew that.” That was kind of surreal, but then he said: “Me too.” -Anonymous Freshman