Trigger Fingers Turn To Twitter Fingers

Mia Habib

The first time I ever got in a Twitter fight, I stated my opinion in my own tweet and got called out for being judgmental. I got called mean and unnecessary things that could have been avoided, and I was blamed for starting the whole issue, when in reality, I never said anything to them personally, they simply took it upon themselves to aggressively respond to my opinion.

The second and last time, I was called out on Twitter for a little misunderstanding, but this time, I responded shortly a couple times, and he eventually let his ego settle.

Twitter fights are somewhat inevitable due to the fact that you simply can’t please everyone. People will say things that bother you and you will say things that bother others, but what’s most important is that you learn to pick and choose your battles.

It all starts with a single tweet and a person willing to tell you why they think you’re wrong. What makes it a Twitter fight is how the responding party reacts to it. Now for all you non-confrontational people out there who are wondering the best possible way to avoid ever having to deal with the hassle that is a Twitter fight, the answer is that, in a way, you can’t. There is no foolproof way of staying out of a Twitter fight aside from not even having an account.

But here’s what you can do should you ever find yourself in the situation. Before all else, keep your thoughts and disagreements about someone’s comment to yourself unless you are able to deliver your message in a classy, objective manner.

If you do feel that someone is wrong and that they need to be informed of it, make sure to think about what you’re saying so as not to completely disregard their perspective even if that’s all you can think about. Acknowledge their side of the argument so you don’t make them feel ignorant, again, even if you truly feel they are.

On the other hand, if you are the person receiving the correctional comment, it’s important not to get immediately defensive unless they insult you, because at that point, you need to stand up for yourself.

Once you find yourself caught in the situation, be as objective as possible, so you don’t criticize their character for whatever it is they feel the need to correct you on. If the person responding to something you said begins to be aggressive towards you, it starts to become a bigger issue that other people want to get in on, so either stop responding to them or take it to direct messages and settle your differences there.

The issue with trying to settle more personal disputes over your Twitter timeline is that it starts to become everyone else’s business, and while yes, people love a good Twitter fight where they joke about eating popcorn intensely like it’s a thriller (I am also guilty of this), it’s not always important for outsiders to know what you think.

An article from the Huffington Post called “The Social Media Effect: Are You Really Who You Portray Online?” states that while you have a “real self,” which is your true attributes, characteristics and personality, you also have an “ideal self,” which is who you want others to believe you are or who you feel you should be due to social and environmental influences.

While we want others to believe we are strong and willing to fight for what we believe in, sometimes that just isn’t who we are, and it is important to acknowledge that and not pick fights over something you may normally feel is petty. Ultimately, it all comes down to the type of person you are and if you often speak your mind and announce your opinion whether it needs to be said or not.

Some people don’t find Twitter fights worth it because they are sensitive and see it as cyberbullying. Others just don’t find it to be worth it because it’s extra drama and a waste of time just to prove they’re right, and a lot of people just don’t care enough.

Moral of the story is, if someone comes at you over Twitter in an aggressive way, the best thing to do is to not engage yourself in whatever they’re saying. Easier said than done, but be the bigger person. Remember, just because someone is being corrected over Twitter doesn’t make it a Twitter fight.